Monday, May 26, 2008

Street Walking

How does one REALLY go about changing something big and important in their lives? It's HARD!! How did we get to the place we don't like? What keeps us there?

"My Life in Five Chapters" is a well known anecdote about making change in one's life. I'm not really sure who is the original author of this fantastic piece, but I have put together my own version from my memory of it being told to me:

Chapter 1: I walk down the street, there is a deep hole in the sidwalk and I fall in. I am lost. I am hopeless. It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter 2: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend not to see it, and I fall in again. It's not my fault, and it takes a long time to get out.

Chapter 3: I walk down the same street, and there is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see the hole, but I still fall in - it's now become a habit. But, I know where I am, I know it's my fault, and I get out quickly.

Chapter 4: I walk down the same street, and there is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.

Chapter 5: I walk down a different street.

There are things about ourselves that we all want to change. For me, it is the way I think about food. The bottle of rum that's been sitting on my kitchen counter for weeks now is almost invisible. I could really care less that it's there. But, the half eaten bag of chocolate chips? Oh my. It calls my name ever so sweetly, caressing the back of my neck, smiling, reminding me how good it will be. Oh yah, I'm sick!

But, where is the 12 step program for foodies? An alcoholic can eliminate alcohol from their life, never walk into a bar again, never drink another cocktail. A smoker can throw away their cigarettes, never take another puff (although I hear this is one of the hardest addictions to break). But none of us can stop eating. We just have to learn to eat less, and that is really tough.

So, here I am, totally embarassing myself on my blog, talking about how I eat too much. Yes, this is embarassing for me. Even though it is obvious I eat too much from the moment you see me. What we eat in private does show up in public, after all.

But I am making serious changes in my life about food. I am walking down a whole different boulevard. I don't know where this road will lead, but I have to change streets because I don't want to fall into that hole ever again.


BloggingQueen said...

So you're a street walker, eh? ;o)

The last time I saw Ivan's wife, she'd lost 55 lbs or more -- I've actually never seen her this slender, ever. Not even when they were still in college. She did Weight Watchers for about 6 or 8 months, I think. She's not model skinny, but now you notice her height more than her weight.

Seeing her example, for about a half-second The Husband thought he'd sign up for that online. I'd heard they were pushing the online thing to men, I guess so they would sign up without feeling like they were doing something only chicks do.

But it insists that you start your program *that day*, I guess to prevent procrastination. The Husband used the excuse that it wasn't user-friendly to forget the whole thing. So if you spend even one day on a formal program, you're ahead of the game, I'm thinkin'. Good luck.

Loretta said...

You're hardly alone in your eating issues. Don't be embarrassed! After all, I posted on my blog that I had gastric bypass surgery. Serious food addiction there!

Thanks for the nice comments on my blog.

Moose Ridge said...

actually, there is a (or used to be) a 12 step program for food... Overeaters Anonymous.... and it does have good ideas (I did it for a while a LONG time ago)... I can tell you that the different road is the best choice... 8 years ago I started on WW and it took me 16 months to take off 100 pounds (size 24 to size 10/12) and I've kept it off since then -- they do teach you how to change your lifestyle, how to walk that other road... good luck and email me if you just need a shoulder!

Dunlap TN

artbeth67 said...

I know where you're coming from big time, Tally. A little over a month ago I decided to lose weight after seeing some pictures of me from a party I was at. I was absolutely disgusted with how I looked (much more than usual)and that is what I needed to get my butt in gear. It's been going great and I feel so much better! I wish you all the luck in the world because I know how hard it is first hand!

peggy gatto said...

Thank you for posting the 5 chapters!!!! I can use this in my life!